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If you have followed me on Instagram or YouTube for any length of time, you know that I was all in when it came to homemaking content. For a few years I was known as The Gracefilled Homemaker in the online world and I was very proud of that image. Homemaking was and is such a huge part of who I am and sharing insight on it was something I truly enjoyed… Until I didn’t.

Homemaking as a ministry is what I preached, and while I still 100% believe in that, the internet was and continues to be over saturated with homemaking as an aesthetic. You know, all the cool kids are aesthetically homemaking now and if you aren’t creating aesthetic content, then you might as well quit homemaking. And guess what I did? I quit. Not homemaking, because I am still a homemaker, but I quit creating content for it. I even deleted my blog altogether (which I regret)! So what are my reasons for completely walking away from homemaking content? Let’s talk about it.

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Reasons Why I Quit

I don’t bake bread… Well, I do but I don’t.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love baking bread. My family and I devour it soon as it’s out the oven. It’s one of those things we really enjoy doing, specially in the winter time. But the internet preached that homemade bread was the “best” option if you were a homemaker. Basically, store bought bread was a no go. As a homemaker, your duty is to save your family money by not buying bread. Yeah, no.

Listen, as much as I love freshly made bread at home, I was not going to be strongly influenced, for lack of a better word, when I had a bunch of littles at home and my time would be better suited doing other things. I’m not gonna lie to you, I started to feel like my content wasn’t good enough whenever I didn’t make bread every week.

I don’t wear floral dresses every day.

Better yet, I don’t even get dressed every day. I’m more of a pajamas or lounge wear type of gal. But again, floral dresses is one of those things that you will notice right away if you searched homemaking on YouTube. Then you’ll go my channel and notice I have on leggings and a T-shirt in most of my videos *shrugs*. Actually, I don’t mind getting ready for the day in the mornings, but I refuse to make dresses, makeup and elaborate hairstyles a daily thing because that’s just not my style or reality.

The problem with this is that when you overconsume this content, the day you don’t feel like getting dressed, doing your hair rather than throw it in a mom bun and putting on some light makeup, you automatically feel like either you didn’t have a good day or you weren’t productive enough. And let me just say, some of my most productive days have been in just leggings, a t-shirt, and a really messy mom bun (I have huge curly hair, so you can only imagine how messy).

Every homemaker apparently homeschools too.

To be clear, I do still homeschool even though I don’t make homemaking content anymore. But being in both homemaking and homeschool communities online, I began to realize that it was starting to becoming a “thing”. If you homeschooled, you were a homemaker. If you’re a homemaker, you homeschool. It honestly doesn’t even seem like a big deal but when not every mom can be at home all day with her kids, yes, it can become one.

I never want to be that mom who discourages another for not living the same lifestyle that I live. We are fortunate enough (by Gods grace) to be able to live off of one income comfortably but not everyone can do that. And by pushing the homemaking/homeschool agenda, I began to feel like I was in some way, minimizing the role of the working mom who had to send their child to public school.

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I can really get deep into all the reasons why I quit creating homemaking content, but these are my top reasons. Although I won’t be baking bread or wearing dresses every day, I do still fulling enjoy homemaking and stewarding it as my main ministry. Would I want to share homemaking inspiration again in the future? Absolutely! But in a more subtle and practical way that caters to women of all walks of life; working moms, stay at home moms, soon to be moms, etc. Also, in the future, I won’t let it become my identity because my true identity, and yours too, is in Christ.